I would like to support your courage in being there for yourself. A balanced see-saw that is in constant flux between being there for yourself and being there for others. As women, biologically or culturally, seem to gravitate to being there for others.
"If not you, then who. If not now, then when?"
As mommy, you can be there for your kids which can be fun and/or exhausting. In an adult-to-adult relationship, it's got to be give and take, or you are in danger of total exhaustion and/or losing yourself. What we are talking about here, is consistency and responsibility to your core self.